Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[pookie69]

What's the worst that would have happened?

[john28]

What's the worst that would have happened?

I could have an emo moment, said something wrong not to my W's liking, and remain thus inconsistent w/ my W, who wishes to see consistency. I'm going on a few days of happy good John, just trying to avoid damaging the R anymore before Retrovaille next Friday.

You have to understand where my headspace is now. I'm not 100% detached. I don't like playing happy family, then going 1 day later to lawyers for mediation. It is too much of a rollercoaster for me now and I will not put myself in that position until I'm emotionally ready to handle it.

[pookie69]

I agree with you John. Your wife left you, so why would you be there? So she could put on the front of having the happy family? Absolutely not anything in that for you. Let her face her family alone. They are a lot more likely to tell her she is making a mistake.

Good question. Was he invited? If not I would agree.

Don't bet on family for saying that she is making a mistake though. They have bias eventhough they have the best intentions at heart for both of them.

[john28]

I agree with you John. Your wife left you, so why would you be there? So she could put on the front of having the happy family? Absolutely not anything in that for you. Let her face her family alone. They are a lot more likely to tell her she is making a mistake.

Good question. Was he invited? If not I would agree.

Don't bet on family for saying that she is making a mistake though. They have bias eventhough they have the best intentions at heart for both of them.

I was invited by my W to go because she is staying there with them and would have to go anyways and didn't want everyone to know what was going on, plus she wanted to spend time with me today.

I don't think her family will tell her she is making the wrong decision, but I do think they would say something along the lines of, "I hope you guys can work this all out."

Her entire family is a "death do us part" type people. Never a D on her side as far as I know, not even extended family.

[pookie69]

You have to understand where my headspace is now. I'm not 100% detached. I don't like playing happy family, then going 1 day later to lawyers for mediation. It is too much of a rollercoaster for me now and I will not put myself in that position until I'm emotionally ready to handle it.

How did you end up there? Were you invited?


Never mind you just answered it above

[pookie69]

Her entire family is a "death do us part" type people. Never a D on her side as far as I know, not even extended family.

That would have been an interesting conversation piece then, no?

[john28]

Her entire family is a "death do us part" type people. Never a D on her side as far as I know, not even extended family.

That would have been an interesting conversation piece then, no?

Maybe, but not an appropriate one at this time.

[pookie69]

I hear you but I would have taken that opportunity to show the confident and cool John in front of the family.

The John who is moving on and is a fun loving father with his kids.

How would have that made your W look?

[john28]

I hear you but I would have taken that opportunity to show the confident and cool John in front of the family.

The John who is moving on and is a fun loving father with his kids.

How would have that made your W look?

I can see your point, and it probably would have worked. Understand though that I'm not confident that I could pull that off right now. That's all.

[john28]

W called, too late for movie time, so I said maybe another day. She said no, she wanted to go. I tried to talk her out of it - S4 didn't have a nap, it's not a big deal, it's OK we'll do it another day - she just said, no she really wanted to go.

So I found another movie time.

W en route.

I asked her how the BBQ went. She said fine, no questions were asked, that she understood why I left but I wouldn't have anything to worry about again. Called her 'babe' on the phone and she responded with her 'honey'. More consistency seems to be warming her up.

Going to see a movie!