Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[john28]

Went to the family BBQ at her Aunt/Uncle's house where she is staying, showed up a little early with S4. It was going to be her side of the family there, but not close family - cousins, uncles. We had talked about not telling anyone but our immediate family, but when I arrived she pulled me aside and said that her Uncle (who she is staying with) blabbed to his brother, who is another blabber. She said that she just found out 30 minutes ago because she brought it up to him and said that he would appreciate it if they didn't say anything. Uncle admitted he already told others.

So I felt extremely uncomfortable but no one had arrived yet. I told W that I didn't feel comfortable there and this was not a good situation for me right now. I suggested a movie later tonight with S4 and her and she said that was a great idea.

She said she understood why I wouldn't stay. That she didn't really want to either but she couldn't leave because it would look really bad to her Aunt/Uncle, which I can understand.

I spoke with her Uncle quickly, said I couldn't stay. He pulled me outside for a quick talk. We're pretty close before now, he has admitted to me the A he had during his M and how he moved out, etc. All of this he talked to me about a year ago. He pulled me outside and told him that I appreciated him letting W stay there during all of this. He said he was sorry this was happening right now, but if I ever needed to talk he would be there. I apologized to him that I couldn't stay, that is was not a good situation for me right now knowing that all these people would know what is going on. He understood and said it wasn't a problem.

W walked me to the car, I apologized for not staying to her. She said she completely understood, and she didn't want to deal with it either. She gave me a loving kiss on the lips and said ILY and gave me a really good hug and then I was on my way.

This may not have shown strength in this situation - I know this. But I'm not in a place right now where I need other people asking me questions and prying. These people would, I know them. So, maybe a mistake, but it is a mistake I'm willing to deal with right now. I was honest and open with my W and this isn't necessarily a bad thing.