Sometimes it pays not to react right away when emotions run high. Even next morning. It's been going on long enough. You can wait.
I know what you mean, but that's what I ALWAYS did. Clearly, hasn't worked out too well... Here's what I think (and that's my new theory so feel free to disagree): I waited to calm down myself and sent him a neutral, not emotionally charged message, and that is better than waiting to bring it up again some day or maybe never (this is how it often ended). It might stop him in his tracks? (if he's still mad)
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
