Still trying to find my way

[Mystik]

So H called, wanted me to call him. I called him back and we talked civily about DS for almost 15 minutes. The whole time I just wanted to cry and tell him that it's not supposed to be like this, that we shouldn't be discussing visitation schedules. He's supposed to be living with us and we're supposed to be a happy family.

H is keeping DS until tomorrow morning instead of taking him on Tuesday. He is also going to bring DS home to me instead of making me drive out to the exchange spot again. He suggested that when I do move at the end of the school year I look for a community out by his because "DS has friends here, and it's good for him. It would be good if you were in a place where there were other kids for him to play with outside, or for him to even be able to go outside. I know you'd never live in my community but there are other good ones like it here." Um, no. Right now I'm thinking about staying right where I am for another few years.

We also talked about the school schedule. He is keeping DS tomorrow instead of taking him Tuesday so DS doesn't get all wound up the night before school starts and have trouble sleeping. He is going to stop by after school on Wednesday and visit with DS for a bit to see how his first day of school was. H suggested he visit with DS at my place, I told him I wasn't too sure about that, I'll probably suggest he take DS to Burger King or something instead.

H reluctantly proposed a new visitation schedule for the school year, asked that I be flexible about allowing extra time because he can't stand to go for such a long time without seeing DS. I pointed out that I have been flexible all along, why would I stop it now? The new schedule is he takes DS every Wednesday for dinner, has him to me by 7:30 and we'll continue with him taking DS every other weekend Friday to Sunday, on my weekends to have DS he'll get DS from 10-2 on Saturday or Sunday.