That is exactly what I did to her and to us for atleast the last year and a half. I know that there was not OM because of my spying and also from Jan to May of this year she focused on finishing her nursing school and from May to June on passing the NCLEX for her RN and I helped with her studies as well as edit her papers, my way of showing her love.
Now since she is on a dating site and has been dormant the last 3 days there may very well be OM. However, she is a new RN and it is a holiday weekend so she may be working cover shifts. I got really upset this morning when I discovered this, but I am speculating and besides I cannot control her only me.
So that will be my focus. She will eventually have to contact me one way or they other and I want to put my best foot foward when that happens. I hope by not acknowledging her b-day that it will create some curiosity. I have been focusing on my 180's via email by not showing anger and frustration in regard to her NC.
In regard to your H I wish that some of us WAS on this site could talk with him. He is in his own fog and appears to want to wish it away or put in token effort. I know I saw the trainwreck coming (my W looking for an apt.) it should have been my wake-up call to change what I was doing and stop the wreck from happening. It took my W walking out the door to wake me up.
