My email must have stirred something because H got on IM. We chatted nicely for a long while about random things and we even briefly touched on the subject of managing money "when I move there". It was all good until he asked me if I figured out anything about getting a job there.
It's a fairly touchy subject because there would be very few opportunities for me to work over there. It might take a while for me to find a job. His job is very well paid and we wouldn't have a problem with making a living - the limitation would be that we wouldn't be able to afford to travel as much as we (he) would like to. I know people who are in the same situation as we would be, earning the same or less as him, with kids (we have none) and the wife staying at home and having no problems affording it. I am fully committed to doing whatever it takes to get a job, but the options are pretty limited.
So we talked and I mentioned a few leads I'm planning to use to try to find work. He said he's concerned about having to live on one income, which I understand, but I think he's exaggerating (I didn't say that though, I validated). I said again that I will do whatever I can to get a job cause I really want one.
And then he dropped another one of his great lines "Lord only knows what the hell you'll do when you don't have one". Passive aggressive much? I tried to gather my thoughts and he just said good night and logged off.
Since he's gone now, I can't engage him in further conversation, but I want to send him an email saying that it hurts me when he makes sarcastic comments like this. I know that it's a difficult subject and I appreciate that he talked to me about it but put downs like this are not welcome.
Thoughts?
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
