I had been talking to his mom a lot, telling her I still wanted the marriage to work. He said today that 'talking to her wasn't going to change anything' and when I said I know he kind of chuckled. I said 'do I want to save our marriage? Yes. Do I want to be married to the person you are right now? No.' and he just made this unbelieving smirk, which I understand. I don't act as if enough. I can't find the balance.
Seriously? Why would you say that to him... ? You are volunteering to be a DOORMAT when you do that.
Why are you TALKING to him at ALL?
I could have told you he would dismiss you before you said a syllable of that... You don't need to act as if... you need to act like you are LEAVING...
STOP pursuing him right now, he's just using that to humiliate you and laugh at you
Originally Posted By: Ihavehope
We should be split by the end of the month. I really just think he is done. I don't think that there is anything I can do. I am sitting on the fence about the affair which makes me' confused and go back and forth between being his friend and being distant
STOP worrying about HIM being done or not... that is NOT RELEVANT right now..
I tell EVERYONE this... STOP making decisions right now... the focus is on YOU and your children getting to SAFETY.. THAT is what you focus on... STOP worrying about HIM being DONE... you are letting him CONTROL your MIND
