There are some books by Terrence Real that my IC recommended. One of them is called "How Can I Get Through To You".
Thanks pookie, I'll have a look into that book. Sounds like something helpful.
OMG pookie and ris, I have that in an audiobook, and I've listened to it probably 3 times now. It is EXCELLENT. Seriously. Life changing. Another good one of his is The New Rules of Marriage. Also have listened to that one as many times.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.