Hi GAG, My intention wasn't to stir the pot. My H is no where near ready for that as he is still in the running stages.
It was a boundary I set for me. The insensitivity of H offering the ow's old dresser to me really hit a nerve. I needed to let him know that I didn't appreciate that kind of gesture and won't in the future either.
Something rather surprising happened a couple days after I sent H the email telling him not to offer anything like that again.
I'll go back a couple weeks and set it up.
About 3 weeks ago D17 started college. It's close enough that she can live at home. Anyway, we've always taken the kid's pics the first day of school. I took a pic of her at the door and sent it to H with the caption, "Our little girl's first day of school. lol". I received no response from H at all. He didn't even acknowledge that he'd gotten the pic.
About 2 days after I sent the email about the dresser it was D12's first day going to the HS. I took her pic and since I was dark with H I wasn't going to send it to him. I thought about it some more and decided since it's not in my nature to be like that I sent it with a plain caption of "First day of school 2010."
Surprisingly H texted me back pretty quickly thanking me for the pic and joking about school starting before Labor Day.
I truly thought since I had sent him the dresser email that he would be angry at me for a while. Go figure...
