When you say "fighting for her and not ...to win", what exactly do you mean? I'm also in the fog about "fog". Do you mean if we get cold enough with our runaway spouses they'll see things more clearly? I'd have thought they could also use our coldness as another excuse to stay away for good and look elsewhere. As in " how could I want to come back to a sour faced, indifferent so-and-so like you? NotCrackingUp
Me: 46 H:42 Together for 18 yrs, married 14. 3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7. Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation. Separated 08/2010
