I gave up...filed for D

[courts0818]

luv,
Oh my goodness, I just read through some of your posts. My heart breaks for you and your kids. I can totally relate to the emotions you've been feeling throughout this journey.

Besides having the same anniversary of August 18th, we seem to have some things in common. Like you, I can be having a good day and just a text, email or face-to-face meeting with H can bring me down.

Know that your feelings are valid - if you are sad, angry, stressed, fearful, etc. that it's all okay. What I'm finally learning is it's how we deal with it that matters.

For everything you are going through, you sound really strong. Keep hanging in there. We all know a D is not what you ever wanted. But I know there are sunny days ahead for you.

Your kids are older than mine, but a really good book that I found is called, Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way."

I work with teens and I know how things like this can make them shutdown. Just do your best to stay the strong, positive role model that you are. And try to engage your kids in conversations and things they enjoy - which might help them to open up and talk to you about what they are feeling. Maybe take DD shopping, for lunch, for a mani or pedi. For DS, maybe play a sport with him, video game, take him to dinner, etc. Encourage them to have friends over and such and to stay actively involved in school and activities.

Hang in there! Hugs to you. : )