On two ends of the world..

[ris]

I did read it, maybe I need to read it again because I don't recall any advice in that matter.

I know that it's very much in my H's nature to steam over things instead of going and doing something about it. I really want to understand this approach because to me it's just pointless, but I know that it's just me being judgmental. Obviously it does work (better or worse) for him and he must have some reasons to do that.