If you feel the urge to climb out, go ahead and read the advice you have been given others here.
Your preaching does not match your own actions.
Just an observation. I am no expert nor will I claim to be until...
I meant figuratively going into my cave to go dark with the W. Take some time for myself only. Figure out how I feel. I'm taking all the advice I've gotten in there with me.
It's been said here before, especially by Pinhead and myself, that it is so easy to look at other situations and know exactly what it is that person needs to do. So, you give advice. Usually it's the right kind. But, since you have no attachment to that situation it's easy to tell them what to do. Doing it yourself is a whole other animal.
That's a topic that comes up quite often on these boards.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
I meant figuratively going into my cave to go dark with the W. Take some time for myself only. Figure out how I feel. I'm taking all the advice I've gotten in there with me.
It's been said here before, especially by Pinhead and myself, that it is so easy to look at other situations and know exactly what it is that person needs to do. So, you give advice. Usually it's the right kind. But, since you have no attachment to that situation it's easy to tell them what to do. Doing it yourself is a whole other animal.
That's a topic that comes up quite often on these boards.
Figuratively, of course. Did not think you were Bin Laden.
If you repeat after yourself enough times you'll eventually start believing it. Nothing wrong here either. Politicians do that all the time.
"Mission: No R talk until Retrouvaille in 8 days."
Watch out, don't get fooled! I'd say very little even at Retrouvaille until I were sure W was indeed there with the right motivation/hope to save the M. They can easily get thru' the screening (often by lying) but show up with some other motivation, e.g., making it easier to get D, learning to stay friends, to co-parent better, ... One of the prereqs is that both spouses not have an OP, but they can lie about that too. While your "hope" might seem like a good thing it often isn't - when you somehow drop the "hope" (or is it the "rope") and actually have zero expectations that's when only in a few cases the WAS begin to turn.
