New Thread - Same Sitch

[steady]

Of course, H and I have not done anything with just the 2 of us since the marriage retreat weekend. I don't know how the M is supposed to improve if we don't do anything practically towards that.

It won't.

However, I am not initiating that. It will be up to H to do so at this point. I'm still in "matching" mode for the most part. I've done small things to initiate kindness, and they have been received well. However, I don't feel comfortable going for bigger ticket items with having no proof that he wants to up the ante.

What about setting up something you want to do and are willing to do alone and inviting him to 'come along'.

"Honey, I'm going Kayaking on Saturday afternoon, would you like to come along?" His answer doesn't matter since you want to do it anyway.

Pick something that's doesn't resemble a 'date' event. Maybe even a movie you want to see. Or a museum, etc...

I suggest staying away from - "Honey, I'm going to Venice Italy to ride a Gondola through the tunnel of love. Want to come along?" (seems some of the smilies are out of commission)