WAH help please

[pearlharbr]

Until then I'm going to keep reading and try to formulate a plan of how to ask him to leave the house.

Have you read the "Setting them free" thread yet??

Question: We are still living together although we don't sleep together. How to detatch when were still in the same house?

Two answers that I would say would work..

1st.... ONE of you has to move. "WS, I have done some thinking and I have decided that this just isn't working out for me. I think we should move toward separating and divorce and I think it would be wise if we start it asap. We have a few issues to work out, but the first one is that I think you should find another place. Maybe move to your moms or your friends or get your own place for now, but I want to separate need some space.
I will give you two weeks to find a place and get moved. If you can't get everything moved in two weeks, we can store stuff in the garage for a few more weeks until you get situated."
(said firmly, matter of factly an yet cordially.. As if you will even help her by letting her leave stuff at the house for a small period of time...)

If she says she won't move and is firm on not moving...

Then YOU move out. Get your ducks in a row. Staying and living together is a no no when you want to show them you are moving on down the road and letting go.


2nd choice.... Start socially interacting with the oppostie sex and have the time of your life while doing it. Text one of your new social friends day and night and at all hours. Laugh on the phone loudly and deeply while your wife is within hearing distance(usually works best when that social friend just happens to be the opposite sex.. ..ony friends of course ).... all while leaving her alone...

those are the best two options

If you're not prepared to take the necessary action, that's one thing. But don't say that you haven't received enough feedback or that you haven't been directed to the information.