You might want one to read over that contract to make sure you aren't exposed to any debt she might create, and so on... anyway.
I helped write it. I'm getting an attorney for advice, then go from there.
No more mercy/lovingly letting go from me...the dynamics have really changed. I can't bust her out to friends and family, but I'm going to make sure this is etched in her brain forever.
Well, think it over, and think through if it is going to really accomplish anything, and all of that stuff.
Be strong. Think things over. Pray for clarity.
Note: if you had let go, it wouldn't bother you so much. It would be more like, "well, NEXT!".
Oh I have not let go, I've been WANTING to let go. Detaching has been very rough...a gnawing in the gut kept telling me to run away and a little voice in my head kept saying DO THE RIGHT THING. If I had truly let go you wouldn't see me post as much.
I don't really care about anything other than the fact that I HATE LIARS. When there is nothing to hide, feel, and you just want to "See other people" then F**KING say it. I get it, but watching her lie repeatedly, keep calling or texting, showing up all of a sudden, no straight stories and drive by communications. Screw that! Time to wake her up, not for me, but for herself. She shall feel this after we're done, but me I'm moving on...least now I can go on a damn date.
I've had 2 women flirt with me this week and tell me how good I look lately and they want to know why. I still wear my ring, but it's gone now. I haven't even brought up my sad sack story, because of rebound/sad story fear. You know what? Now I can say screw that...Life is too short to pass up opportunities.
This is too fresh to say anything other than I'm dealing with the here and now.
I feel like I've waited for a crazy squirrel at a park bench to come and get the nut out of my hand, but the whole time she's been eating out of the bag sitting behind me. Suspicious and clueless.
Sorry you saw that, but I know it's for the best too. They all lie. That's what they do. They say they are doing it to protect you, but they are doing it protect themselves. Anyway, if you find it freeing, then maybe it is for the best.
Sorry you saw that, but I know it's for the best too. They all lie. That's what they do. They say they are doing it to protect you, but they are doing it protect themselves. Anyway, if you find it freeing, then maybe it is for the best.
Thanks Lotus.
I'm thankful I didn't assault the guy. That would have been very bad, win or lose. If I won I would've felt good momentarily, but it would have been a complete loss in every other area. He was really cautious...I told him "you like f**king with married people huh?" "It all comes back around" ...he made some dumba$$ comment about "every day is a why"...called him an idiot, walked towards him and then just turned around and walked away. Stared at my W in the passenger seat of her truck and watched her stare straight forward.
Pulled out at the same time, I was pissed...pulled up side by side to him and gave him a 3 min finger. Really pissed...but it was better than kicking his a$$
She could give me 900 reasons why she lied. I would have just threw up in the end anyway.
Yes, I find it freeing. I'm feeling now my goal is clear cut and whatever happens now I can be firm on my Boundaries. I'm not happy about being cheated on so if opportunity presents itself down the road I know from this board alone how to approach the matter.
I get divorced in 26 days. No More Mr Nice Guy and I will NOT be a doormat again.
Sorry to hear about the encounter. I'm sure you have already seen that you're reactions so far have been "understandable" but, in the end, fruitless and did more damage to YOU than anyone else.
I'm not going to tell you it didn't hurt when I found out about the OM or the lies.
Howvere, I am going to tell you that it hurt a lot less and my head was a lot clearer (for things like your lawyer appointment Tuesday) when I focused on MY reactions and my actions GOING FORWARD rather than HER actions.
Again, she is doing what she is going to do. We don't have to agree with it but we have to accept that we can't control anyone else.
However, it now also illustrates that we have to be VERY aware of how WE let others control/influence us. And insure that we are acting on our own in response to what WE want or need as opposed IN REACTION TO someone else.
I wish I had more time this mornng but I'll check back later.
I think I'll be visting a doctor today aboy my D2's cough. It was a LLOONNGG night.
Hang in there, Faith. Calm down. Try to be VERY STILL and be DARK.
Think about how you reacted and how you allowed anger AT HER to reflect poorly on you. Be untimately concerned WITH YOU.
W're talking about your health; your safety; your future.
Be very careful! The less you do at this stage, the better. Until the anger disspates and you are thinking of ACTING for you, (again, as opposed to REACTING), the better off you will be.
I don't really care about anything other than the fact that I HATE LIARS. When there is nothing to hide, feel, and you just want to "See other people" then F**KING say it. I get it, but watching her lie repeatedly....
MY SENTIMENTS EXACTLY!!
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