It is a process for them. They don't wake up one day and feel terrible about the things they did. It slowly eats away at them and then one day they feel the need to release the guilt.
Exactly correct John. When H first moved back in, he was still lying to me but I didn't know it. It wasn't until he admitted he slept with the OW that we finally were able to really work on our M. The confession was a sort of relief for both of us. For me, because he finally told the truth. However, I will say the moment he told me was gut wrenching.
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
