A positive start to a new day....... Sept 2009 and Sept 2010-the changes.
-No invitation to H's houses (had 3) since he left-now have visited there, had dinner with D there twice -Business emails very much to the point- now emails that start Hi Cas and finish thanks, H. Occasional humorous emails -Texts only in response to mine and very brief- some text initiation and more detailed responses -Not on each others skype- now have skype contact -Temper tantrums, impatience -no tantrums, greater patience -Blame, always my fault-trying to consider my side and to defuse before minor issues become arguments - No contact except dinner for kid's birthdays-weekly dinner at my place -Secrets about where he's going and with whom-greater transparency. If he can't do something he'll say why. Also more inclined to share info on job offers, family etc -No conversation initiated and limited word responses-more detailed responses and some initiation of conversations -No outward concern re my health issues-rang to check after my last consult, listened and offered opinion -No commitment; I'll see what I'm doing, I'll try to-now more def yes or no and why -No willingness to help-Greater willingness to help and some offers...taking me to the airport. Even ok taking my friend as well -No physical contact-occasional hugs (both of us are unsure what to do when he leaves here after dinner...still very awkward) -No phone calls-will call at times, even when text will suffice -Now greater humour and texts/skypes can be general fun banter
