Got up this morning and took myself down to the corner patisserie to buy a nice big cappuccino and fresh-baked scone (don't normally do that, so it was a TREAT!), got my car washed (driving GF to theater tomorrow), bought my precious kitty some treats (she loves me no matter what), downloaded "Wicked" album on my iPod, and came here.
These sound like such wonderful 'pick me ups' GAG. You deserve these often!! We need to allow ourselves these treats. Isn't it amazing how wonderful it feels just to drive a sparkling clean car?
Originally Posted By: goodattitudegirl
my biggest frustration with this whole thing is that I had hoped XH was maturing and beginning to see BMF for who he is. .........but I will try not to rush to judgement on this.
Yep, XH's BMF certainly sounds creepy! However, don't forget that XH has had a falling out with BMF. Perhaps he really has seen him for what he is. Since the two have had a falling out I'm sure XH would have been aware of some of his faults and cast some blame on him (as all MLCers naturally would!) The renewal of this friendship may be with some uncertainty or even some limitations. Time will have changed them both in some ways. You can't know what XH is thinking about BMF without discussing it and for now I guess there's not much chance of this type of a discussion.
As I said before, going dim may help. XH has been reaching out and the signs are good. I've just finished reading Upside's thread and if that's the level of patience required then this is just the beginning!! However, remember Dia's thread too and her H had an ow but he kept slowly moving back to Dia, with a few step backs, slides and twists. Once he saw the light he followed it.
You have been an amazing person throughout all of this and your personal integrity has shone through. Whatever happens you know you are giving this R the best possible chance of reconnection.
