How should I proceed now? Is there hope?

[NotCrackingUp]

I know you're right, of course. My self-esteem is so low that I can't seem to set any boundaries at all. I thought things were ok, I thought he was happy with me. then he suddenly cut off all affection and even friendship, has given practically no explanation, seems to be "disgusted" with me as though I'd become a leper, but still wants tp pop over as though I was an old aunt. If I had the guts to follow my instinct, I'd ask not to see him or hear from him at all, except on child-related matters. seeing him around hurts so.

I've read "Divorce Remedy", not "Divorce Busting".I remember a part about being perky and happy when spouse comes round, so as to present a viable alternative to the OP. I've tried to do this, but he seems to take it as though I've just accepted he's rejecting me, as though we can all be civilized and modern about this, no tears, chalk it up to experience, move on etc. I can't be modern and civilized about it, I feel like a cavewoman over all this. Putting on a "happy,bubbly" face and serving up the Sunday roast feels so false. What to do? I really want a chance to get him back, make him see me as he once did, be an attractive alternative. But the DR advice makes me feel like a sitting duck and a doormat. I don't want to lose my children's respect, which I might if they see their Dad ride roughshod over me. Any advice? Also from experienced members. Bearing in mind the cultural differences. Reading all your posts, I get the impression North Americans are more aware of interpersonal strategy. I have to say French people are very into personal choice and individual freedom, not very pragmatic and hate to be seen to lose face. Simply, I'm not sure that acting tough and getting on my high horse would have the effect I want. But I do feel like a doormat now.