Just wanted to make a different observation to the song you sent to your H. The thing is, we just don't know what effect something we do has on our spouses, unless they tell us.
I have read several accounts of heartfelt or kind gestures that were made by a person to another, and there was no reciprocation (that was evident) Some time later, it was revealed by the one who received it, how much it meant.
This is what is so frustrating. Not knowing what course to take in our interactions or even if we should keep trying.
Remember in the course of our marriages, how many times we overloooked a one word answer, or if they were irritable, or busy, etc? It may have bothered us a bit but we weren't overwhelmed by it. We were secure in our relationship is my opinion.
Now, because the dyanmic has changed, we analyze everything. We are no longer secure. It makes us go crazy.
I think the advice is good, to detach and focus on making your life happy. I haven't quite figured out how to combine detachment with hope though. It seems the two contradict one another.
Maybe someone who is more enlightened can shed their thoughts on this?
