If we agree that this is a life long process, and in effect we are never "done" of the work of self improvement/realization/actualization, at what point do you see someone ready to choose to continue to stand, or not?
I loved these time paradoxes
At what point does focusing on things in a present-holistic context become sub-optimal? How much should be focus on the future, moving forward, making plans, and setting realistic future goals? How much time should be devote to looking to the past, and if we do look to the past how do we do it without regret?
When it comes to relationships and marriages I believe fully in a solution oriented approach. It's my opinion though that in order to maintain long-term changes one must truly examine oneself, one's actions and one's past in order to be moving forward in a postive, healthy, sustainable way. I believe that it is important to "stand" long enough to be sure that one's decisions are coming from a place of compassion, understanding and truth for the LBS ... decisions made hastily from a place of anger, hurt, resentment or impatience do not do the LBS justice. Looking back and using it to move forward, understanding that we too are human and make mistakes and ultimately forgiving ourselves for those mistakes is what keeps us from doing it with regret.
"I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better." — Maya Angelou
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
