Regarding my W. I have been agonizing about sending a b-day greeting. I was telling other that I make difficult and more complex decision every day w/o blinking an eye. I cannot decide if I should send a greeting or not.
Part of me says "yes" I should since I have stopped or stalled the downward spiral by generating a positive feeling with doing what she requested of me. Also, since I have few openings to generate positive feelings I don't want to pass any of them up.
However, I let her go earlier this week therefore, I should not acknowledge her b-day because that shows that I am accepting her bad behavior of leaving and not communicating. I look weak and insecure (waffles on my decsion to let her go and I look needy). But if I do not send a greeting then I might also generate additional negative feelings that I cannot afford.
So I listened to many posters advice and I will send a very short email wishing her a Happy B-day. So I do not offend her by not sending something, but I also show that it was that important to me. I think I found another outlet for communication FB. My W has assess so I will post a few interesting things that I am doing (not too crazy) so if she is looking...maybe, maybe not she can see what I have been up to.
