As a former MLCer, I must stand up for MCLers here. I am of the opinion that most MLCers DO go on for years before the alien departs and the MLCer is dropped right smack back on terra firma with a very rude awakening. My MLC lasted for 5 years and it was not a fun experience at all. When I "woke" up from my own MLC, I was shocked and felt as if I disappeared all those years. MLCers are truly disengaged from world around them and it does take them a loooong time to find their way home.
I do think there are some for which that is true, Wonka. I've purposely spent more time on the MLC board the past several months, to try to open my mind to learn more about it, to be honest with you. I'm still learning.
It's been my observation, however, that anytime someone's only been at it for a few months, and seems strong, well-adjusted, detached and otherwise emotionally healthy, and reports to the community that they're ready to file for D (or expose the affair, or lay out a real firm boundary or something), that they get hit with a barrage of "You haven't done the work yet."
i.o.w., "If it's only been a few months, you can't possibly have done the work." It borders on self-flagellation sometimes, IMHO.
