As a former MLCer, I must stand up for MCLers here. I am of the opinion that most MLCers DO go on for years before the alien departs and the MLCer is dropped right smack back on terra firma with a very rude awakening. My MLC lasted for 5 years and it was not a fun experience at all. When I "woke" up from my own MLC, I was shocked and felt as if I disappeared all those years. MLCers are truly disengaged from world around them and it does take them a loooong time to find their way home. In hindsight, I don't blame my XW for her pain at all. My MLC journey will take up an entire thread by itself...so let's dispense with this and get back to the regular program of "Adventures of CD."
I can definitely say with authority that CD's W is not a MLCer. In my experience and from my readings, most MLCers range between the ages of 35 to 65. W is simply engaged in an A to escape from her own issues. A very selfish way to work through them.
If I were you, CD, I'd start formulating the "letting go" letter as in Gucci/Robox and send it to her. Meanwhile, prepare for the D paperwork and drop it on W's head when she expects it the least. It is truly time for "shock and awe" approach. And the best part, CD? You appear to have finally detached from W's behaviors and ready to tackle D head on. NNMNG!
Perhaps you can begin by drafting the letter to W here in this thread and we can assist with suggestions.
You have real good friends here and off site. I really, really like your buddy with whom you recently talked with about the progress with your W.
