Ris, During our first S, I was told to read up on the LL's the issue is I feel my W's LL is constant attention, which exhausts me. When I gave her that, it was draining and it did not feel "healthy" for me. Maybe she needs someone to be all about her, usually that is the case with most R's in the honeymoon stage, but not for the long haul.
TH, you are very wise in your advice. Actually the help here is unbelievable. I do feel she has not looked, or wont look at the long term affects of her decisions. But that is something I cannot fix or show her the "light" on. I almost feel I am being Db'd by her. I read one of Coach's or PDT threads about this very thing. In a way the WAS starts the tactics, not really knowing about what we learn here, to move on.
It appears she does everything she can to stay as busy as possible, taking on more and more, which she has doe in the past during our M and gets to a point of crashing from it. It is her way I believe of vealing with what is going on in life. Sometimes when I see her she looks like she is so tired and drained she looks near death. I hope for my kid's sake she does not get to the point that she neglects them. When my kids are with me they are and feel I am "there". The w has so much going on I dont think they get her "full" attention. But again I am not with them or her so I dont know this to be true. Just a feeling I get from the way they are with me. Time to take the kids and dogs for a walk around the lake. Going to use the rest of the weekend to spend time with my Brother and also get more done around the new crib.
