I am reading Coach's and Greek's reponses last night to a new poster and advising him not to move out of the bedroom because it only reinforces what the W wants. I am using that analogy here with whether or not I keep the line of communication open.
It's not the same thing. The MBR is partly his, she can't demand of him anymore then he can demand of her to move out. He can make a choice to stay or he can move out. Moving out because it keeps the peace because she will pitch a fit is rewarding bad behavior. Make sense?
1000 watt ideas
- get politically active for fall elections
- sign up for a marathon, tell the world about it
- common denominator among people in prison, no books in their home as a child. organize a book drive and distribute them, teach kids to read if needed. what a gift to give.
- focus on yourself, you shine for you
"A candle gives up nothing to light another."
B-day is easy. send a e-mail that's cheerful, upbeat and professional.
"Running out the door to go to ______________. Wanted to say Happy Birthday. Cheers"
If you have never used "Cheers" before it will perk her ears and eyes. Let her know what is going on in your life very briefly (intomesee). And you get the remembrance in. The less said the better.
You have monkey brain about what to do. Get busy with your hands and body.
Cheers
feels good to say it too.
ps when was the last time you went out dancing?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
