How should I proceed now? Is there hope?

[NotCrackingUp]

Thanks Oxymoron.

I've always loved only my H, but there was a time when he wanted intimacy more often than I, partly through an enormous workload, partly through my hangups about weight after the last child, weight I couldn't shift. SHE was coming out of a divorce, met my H who was/is her sports instructor, started to confide in him. He was away a lot from home, sports absorbed him a lot - and the people that went with it. I think he listened to her story and her "you've only one life-the kids will bounce back- be free' discourse, saw her as available, sexy, new and svelte. I was struggling to prepare exams, sleeping little, doing lots. There was a moment when he could have told me there was a problem, but he didn't, just started living a double life.Long conversations became sexy e-mails and texts, became a physical R.He told me he'd ended it several times, but "she stopped eating and sleeping". I know they were two, but I also know she kept being around, phoning, texting and being in his path even after he'd told me and ended it in March. He couldn't forget her (or the lies he'd been telling). And I'm older, I've lost weight and am still attractive, but he sort of "went off me" after his experience with her. I realise that I'd not seen he was unhappy at one point, I'm so very sorry and I've told him so. But the affair "broke" something between us, he said (in May). Instead of facing the music, he's run off.I've no proof she's still an item in his life. But lotsof things point this way. i just hope she'll disappoint him, it'll wear off.But he's a man who doesn't backtrack or admit he's made a mistake easily.So I think that even if he has pangs, he'll just ignore them.I know the old M is dead, RIP. I'd just love a chance to build a new, more realistic and caring one.
NotCrackingUp