LB husband pleads innocence of all LB toward WAW

[freespirit]

My dear LB husband has "accused" me of being a WAW. What we have here is an abusive marriage; one where the LB husband lives in his reality and the WAW (that's me I suppose) lives in REALITY.

I love my husband and I worked hard in counseling and read every marriage book and YES, the BIBLE as well, and PRAYED for the end of the verbal, emotional and spiritual abuse that my LB husband is totally unaware of. He thinks that I have "made it up". I have only been trying to reach him for over 3 years with my own writings which he did not have the respect to read.

What does a WAW wife need to hear or be allowed to say when her abusiver husband refuses to acknowledge responsibilty for this LBs?