How should I proceed now? Is there hope?

[Oxymoron]

I'm not sure this will help any, but here goes. I did have an EA and my experience was that it fueled my passion for physical intimacy. OM was in another state, but H was in the next room. For me, the attention and conversation I got from OM was what I was trying to get from my H. Too be honest, OM did all the work my H wasn't willing to do. I'm sure that's a horrible thing to hear. It's easy to take someone for granted when they are living with you every day, and I know I was just as guilty for not giving my H the attention and compliments that he was getting from others. For me, I knew OM was a fantasy-I didn't have dreams of running off with him or having a new perfect life. I knew that there was no such thing, and troubles and boredom can creep into any relationship if you don't maintain it. Sadly, I think a lot of people DO think that someone new is the answer, and they fall for the fantasy and run off. Your H may have been through this reality already and hopefully he will wise up. You can keep changing partners, but if you never learn to dance then the dancing is never going to get better. I think that applies to both the WAS and LBS.