NCU you ARE unique! There is only one you, and you will eventually realize that and take pride in it. I know it seems impossible now, I have to keep telling myself the same things until I believe it.
I didn't really want to snoop. I did it once and felt terrible-decided never to do it again. When we went to the bank to have each others names removed from our individual accounts they messed it up. They took his name off all accounts and it messed up everything. Charges from my bank card came out of his account. I looked through the paperwork to find out what $ I owed him, and that's when I saw all the charges he made in a different city than I thought he was going to on weekends. So I tried checking his e-mail on the off chance that I could find enough to do some Affair Busting. I found enough to make me think he is woman shopping and make me sick to my stomach, but not enough to confront him. Prior to that, I think I was doing pretty well on the LRT. Now I am just questioning every little thing again. You are right-it only makes you feel awful and obsess about him when we should be obsessing about taking care of ourselves.
Thanks for the kind words. It is so nice to have a place to get some comfort and support.
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M 45 H 44 no kids-one great dog M 15 yr in Oct T 18 yr Bomb 6/10 "I can't be your husband any more"
