New Thread - Same Sitch

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I'm watching it happen in my life right now. The more I stand up for myself and 'not give a hoot' the angrier she becomes. The angrier she becomes, the more she attacks. But they are blind attacks coming from her anger.

As those increase the very fact I continue to stand up and deflect her attacks with ease, and as life starts to pan out as she doesn't want it to, the harder and more frequent the attacks.

The thing is this - she doesn't realize she's just attacking herself. I'm not doing anything and it's all landing right back on her.

I love this line from a zen story -

If someone gives you a gift and you don't take it, who does it belong to?

When she attacks me, and I don't attack back or absorb her attacks, they have no place to go. So she gets to keep it all. It's like a self-perpetuating machine - as it runs it accelerates faster and faster until it just explodes.

I taught Jiu Jitsu for many years and it's interesting to see the application of the same principles happen in life.