Not sure where to start or end, WAW - #2

[TimeHeals]

There's still a lot of love left in us for each other.

I am not telling you to give up hope, but take a realistic look at how things stand:

If you loved your wife, would you have an affair?

That's a pretty big hurdle for you and her to get over. If she comes back without addressing her issues, and you don't address yours, how do you know you won't wind up back here even if you do reconcile?

You need to be just a little tougher (and by tough, I don't mean be a jerk, I mean know you will be OK).

As much as you pat yourself on the back about having it good, if she comes back and never begins to really respect you, well... I'd rather be on my own, personally.

You need that respect, and she needs real love. The question is can you two get to a place where you both have what you need?