A long time ago I took a psychology class and the professor asked us to stand in a circle. Then he asked each of us, "If you want to get attention for yourself, would you step into the circle or out of the circle?" I said I would step into the circle, but a surprising number of students said they would step out of the circle. I think your wife would step out of the circle to get attention.
So if I follow your logic... You're saying that by her moving out, asking for a D, etc, she's just asking for attention from me? (obviously all subconscious)
I guess that makes sense. She's been stepping "inside" the M for years asking for change and never got the attention.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch