Kids and I have had a blast so far, they are both on the couch eating popcorn and watching star wars. We went to the gym( can you guys tell im a gym nut yet?) went for a cone from sonic, the nthe park, took the dogs for a walk and ate dinner. W left me a message earlier kinda long about this and that, mainly kid related but she seemed to be rambling on. I did not call her back sent her a text that i got her message.
Tonight she sent another text asking the same thing from yesterday, asking if i knew where her memory card was for her camera, she knows I have no clue, so I just replied to her, no idea. That was it. I do not ask what she is doing, but she always makes an effort to tell me what she is doing whether by message or text. I do not really respond one way or the other. I am not a pr!ck just showing really no interest in what she is doing. I have read through many Vets threads and noticed that if you show them you are not going to be their "best friend" the person that is always there to bounce stuff off of, to share stuff with, sometimes that is the best medicine. I think it was PDT who said his W realized she was losing her best friend and it scared the crap out of her. Does my W have other friends? yes but not a best friend, her friends have so many issues they are in and out of her life like, well I dont know what to compare it to.
But over the last eight years, I have been her stable friend, partner and support system. She needs to know what it is like without that there. She did once before, although there was OM the last time, and I have to admit she didnt like the fact that after she walked, there were a lot of OW on my side. I was not the one to stray, but after I filed, and the "ladies" came out I did not stop them .
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