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Right now her only interest is getting through her nursing orientation. We like to go to the movies and out to dinner and sometime dancing. She was like clockwork...every Thursday Chilies and the Buffalo Chicken Salad.

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1000 watt bulb - let's see

How could you get your name in the paper?

What would get people talking about you?

What would make her notice from across the chasm?

All while letting her go.
confused hmmmmmmm


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I don't think low self esteem purposely hurts other people whereas narcissism definitely does.



I'd go easy on the arm-chair phsychiatrist stuff with that handy DSM,

If he was a narcissist, I doubt he'd even be here, let alone beating himself up over and over.

His first wife dumped him. Wife 2 was a rebound, and the rest is what we see here. He's got some work to do, but I don't think we need to peg him with a personality disorder.


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W could not see Catnip unless I put it out on a lighthouse with a 1000 luminous bulb.


Since you have no kids, no pets or anything else to keep the contact going, I understand that concern, but there will be other ways of keeping the distance and letting her know what you're up to.

Where is she staying right now?


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Stop egging him on confused


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Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
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I don't think low self esteem purposely hurts other people whereas narcissism definitely does.



I'd go easy on the arm-chair phsychiatrist stuff with that handy DSM,

If he was a narcissist, I doubt he'd even be here, let alone beating himself up over and over.

His first wife dumped him. Wife 2 was a rebound, and the rest is what we see here. He's got some work to do, but I don't think we need to peg him with a personality disorder.


That's where I was going with it.


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That's where I was going with it.


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Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
Stop egging him on confused


I'm not trying to discourage. I have the same fear.

Since the vets are here now, I will respectfully shut up and listen. blush

Watching Two and a Half Men is distracting me.

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only constructive criticism please....

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Coach,

That is the issue. My W lives in a different town and probably not reading the newspaper. Her friends are from school and the hospital where she works. She just started the job right before she left me so so I did not meet any of her colleagues. We do not have any children together so I am up a creek without a paddle. My only means of communication with her is via email.

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