Originally Posted By: Poe
He didn't say I am now willing to D the wife


This is your hope IMO. This is the nugget that he won't let go even in all his MLC confusion

You are the rock.

You can be that just by standing there.

So

Originally Posted By: Poe
Now is this part of the MLC affair that he can't quite let go of the fantasy


I look at it that he not willing to let go of you and your M.

Originally Posted By: poe
He still wants both in my opinion and when I pulled and she pushed he jumped back to me.


What do you want to do Poe?

You know you will not be able to piece your M back together while he is in the A in any way.

If he is trying to have a realtionship with you and her then, well...

are you ok with an open M? Are you ok with sharing more with H emotionally while he is still enagaging with other woman?

Or not.

If not then maybe there needs to be a boundary set to protect you from that pain.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am