Puppy: People disagree with me too - about how I shouldn't expect too much of H for a LONG time if he's in MLC, etc... Honestly, I don't deal with that perspective very well. No, I don't think things will/should change overnight, but I don't agree in letting WS get away with murder because they're in MLC or whatever! Sorry, but as a woman, no one's going to give me that kind of "freedom" when I'm going through hormonal changes!
I don't see the valor in some long, drawn-out battle either. Now, I may go through that, like it or not, but my stance is "if you can't live by the boundaries...go get a place of your own and let me get on with my life. If one day, you change your mind and I am in a place to reconcile with you at THAT point, we'll see."
Have to say, so far it's worked for me. H may not be totally recommitted to M yet, but he is living by the boundaries to stay in the home, being pleasant for the most part, AND his mental attitude has improved.
