Nothing wrong with taking the perspective which keeps you on track no matter which one it is.
You're doing great. And yes, they seem to have a habit of flip-flopping their intentions.
Very true! I swear sometimes it seems like when things are going decently and H fears I am acting "too happy" he thinks it's because I think things are fine - and he doesn't want me to think things are "fine". So, then it's like he pulls back because he wants to make sure I know he's still not ok.
All the while, H doesn't realize I'm "happy" because I'm happy with myself! Has nothing to do with him! It's part of his self-centeredness right there. It's funny, in Psych you learn about how teens are driven by the fact that the world revolves around them. Their brains are wired at that point to think everyone is looking at them; everyone perceives things the way they do. Not much different for a wayward spouse, is it?!
