On two ends of the world..

[ris]

I have to say that I always thought that it's better to wait until both sides calm down and then once the heat of the moment is gone discuss any problems. It just sort of made more sense that the sides will be more considerate then, you know? (I guess you don't need to ask how's that working for me)

Now that I think about it, it often (not always, but often) made me just forgo the talk - I openly admit to being an avoider. It was "Things are fine now so why make waves" kind of thinking. But if I did bring up the subject, we were usually able to talk it through with a positive effect.

ETA: I don't mean to disagree with you, just saying what it's been like so far. I'm definitely going to try address issues on the spot now.