But I wanted for the hostility to ease off before attempting that talk so that's why I didn't yet.
That's how he keeps you off balance. He uses the hostility to "feel" in control. He knows you won't call him out on CB when he's upset so he gets upset to control you. Make sense?
Next time deal with it on the spot.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
