I noticed on his facebook page that one woman in particular was responding to everything he posted and gushing about him nonstop. He leaves every weekend and I never asked where he was going-I assumed it was to his mother's who lives with his grandmother as his grandmother has just been moved to a nursing home and his mother needed help getting the house cleaned out to sell. I looked at his bank account statement (both of our bank statements are mailed together-we have separate accounts but up until recently both names were on each account) and found out that every other weekend he has been staying in the city of the facebook woman. I don't know of anyone else he knows in that city. I also did decide to check his home computer e-mails, and saw that he spend the night at a friends house, and asked before he went if one of their female friends was going to be coming over also. He seems to be swinging into full "single guy" mode.
Oxy,
If you're doing all of this, you're definitely not doing "2b." Or at least, you're not understanding it correctly. Don't get me wrong, I'm more of a "try 2a FIRST, then when you've reached your wit's end, and if it's not working, THEN do 2b" kind of guy, but "2b" doesn't have you checking the credit card statements and sitting all over his FB page.
If you're letting him go, then let him go.
You need to go back and (re-)read Gucci's excellent thread on "Letting Them Go." For one, you can't do it when you're both still living in the same house. HE should go, since he's the one who wants out, but if he doesn't, then YOU should.
