Thanks Kara.
I'm pulling back and talk with him pleasantly but very little, only when he initiates it, or when necessary for the kids.Have just started new job in new school, that's taking up my time. Some nice new colleagus, even a few presentable men... Only kidding, but I have to get my identity back, as a woman.

I took out some old photos from when we first lived together. Strangely, it comforted me. Yes, he did really love me, we shared so much. And I tried to remember the woman I was before I became housewife and mother of the century. I can just about remember her, I must reconstruct her, somehow, but older and wiser.

Strangely, he just phoned this evening, to ask about my new job and tell me all his (work) troubles. Very pleasant, lingered. I put a - pleasant end to the chat. And he said: "je te fais des bisous" (= kiss you). So strange. OW must be washing her hair tonight. Or he's just papering over the cracks, pretending it's all fine and we've all accepted everything, in fact, nothing has happened. Can't fathom him.

Going to continue the cool treatment. Communication must come from him.
NotCrackingUp


Me: 46
H:42
Together for 18 yrs, married 14.
3 children: 2 girls 13 and 10, one boy 7.
Husband had affair, ended it and then decided on separation.
Separated 08/2010