WAW left on Independence Day and not communicating

[NotCrackingUp]

Thanks, hurtinhartford,
That's a sound piece of advice, and in fact it's what I did on the phone just a while ago.Nice, but "see you later".

The thing is, my H wants everyone to just accept his behaviour - affair, anger, accusing, walking out. He never talks to the kids about it, and when our eldest brought up the subject, got very angry with him and gave him a piece of her teenage mind, he just told her she wasn't being "objective" and turned his back on her, as he'd done with me when I'd tried to get an explanation out of him (before reading DR).

He wants to "paper over the cracks", for us all to be light and happy and friendly while he just goes his own way, so he doesn't feel guilty.

So I can't tell if his ringing and conversing nicely etc. is a twinge of the old self, a result of my cool treatment or just him trying to pretend it never happened. I'm no psychologist, I hate mind-games and I'm confused. So I want to keep being scarce and let him do the ringing and contacting. Besides, I still feel love and desire for him, seeing him and talking to him hurt too much.
So I'll keep pulling back.
NotCrackingUp -yet.