You have been very blount in your critisism. That's OK, I expected to receive critisism. But I also came here looking for help and advice. You have been my most vocal critic (and I respect that) but haven't offered any concrete advice. I ask you point blank, please, if I am to save my marriage what do you reccomend? Do I go to my wife and bare all in person? If yes, how do I do it? Do I ask her to lunch? Do I spill my guts in a letter? Are you telling me there is never a wrong time? The right time is now?
