I followed Coach's advice. I did send an email this morning, let the night settle in. Then sent a short response "Ok, I'll leave it in the mailbox in the morning." Coach also recommended that I send only a b-day card and no gift "why reward bad behavior." So I am following his expert advice.
It is awkward trying to balance the fine line between reconciliation and trying not to tip the scales with too much (pushing). Keep up with your pulling back. I would recommend not talking with your H for too long and be the one that has to leave the conversation.
