wonderful marriage hits midlife crisis

[Albuquerque]

Very good advice Punkin. I would never consider sleeping with him even IF he showed interest. That's too far for me and I know he'd be doing it for the sex, NOT any profound change in his mentation. I agree the distance is sometimes good. The few times my H HAS gone NC (at most a week) he was with OW and during that week, I felt I could evaluate my sitch a bit better and feel the sadness I NEEDED to feel.
Desperate, I don't think I've read your sitch but see that it appears your a newcomer here? Do I have that right? When you're ready, it'll help to start your own thread, lay out your story and take it from there. I agree, TAMF, you, and I should stay in close contact since our situations are similar and strategies to deal with H may be a bit different than most.