I delibertly have not brought up R, M, or D with my W since she left because that is pushing. Give your H space and time and focus on yourself first! I am finally sticky with Dbing even though I have had a few trip ups.
The difficult part is that I cannot see on the other side of the wall. I have read many WAW posts to gain their perspective as well as read many of the vets threads to understand their thinking process...and believe me they had a few trip ups as well, but they learned from their mistakes and adjusted.
This site has been a god send to me for the learning opportunities that it possess. I made my mess and it will take me first to correct it if possible. Give your H space and time and don't push.....
