I wouldn't worry too much about the maiden name thing on the check. Honest mistake.
I did something similar when I had the big conversation with my W earlier this week. When talking about the house I kept referring to it as her house. She got upset and asked me why I kept referring to it as her house instead of our house. I told her it was an honest mistake. I wasn't even thinking, it just came out that way. Oh well. Funny how they get upset about small things like that when there are far bigger things to worry about.
Hope you're well.
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch