I am new to this situation just like you...I can tell you that the advice I am getting from the people on the MLC forum has been very helpful. My only advice (which isn't worth much considering my own situation)is to tell your friends and family that you are going to do it your way. Your friends and family sound like mine, they are hurting for you and angry - they only want you to stop hurting as fast as possible so they are going to tell you what they think is the fastest route to happiness.
Sad thing is...every route we take will be hard. Divorce is just a differnt battle I think, full of a different kind of misery.
The people on this site are going through the same thing you are and understand your situation better I think.
As many have told me - hang in there...
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
